Teaching Kids to be Tough

We were reading our devotional the other night when Johan said he wanted to tell me something.

During recess, his friend in school asked him to draw a video game character, which he did. Then another classmate came in the room, looked at his drawing and said, “Pangit naman ng drawing mo!”.

Of course, my son felt bad after that remark. Truthfully, he was already crying while he’s telling me this. He said, “Hindi naman pangit yung drawing ko, Mommy. He’s the only one who said that it’s pangit.”

Being a mom, you wanted to comfort your child. You wanted to tell him that of course his drawings all look good. But if I do that, what am I really telling my son? That everything he does is great? That nobody can criticize his work?

I don’t want that. I want my son to learn that there are times when people will disagree with him, that sometimes people thinks differently from him, that sometimes what looks good to him may look pangit to other people. And that’s okay.

We talked about individual differences, how he cannot please everybody, how he should focus on improving himself and to consider every criticism he gets as an opportunity to be better.

Before we said our bedtime prayers that night, I asked him, “So, do you still feel bad about what ______ said?”.

“Yes, a little bit. But, I’ll practice more and draw it better next time.”

Lesson learned.

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